A friend recently related a story that we have all felt at one time or another.
She felt like all the balls were going to her. This feeling increased the pressure on her. The increased pressure resulted in her not playing as well as she can. And so on it went, feeding on itself. When she left the courts t she did not feel at all good about the experience that day.
What, she wondered, could she have done to avoid the downward spiral she had felt earlier that day?
I am not going to address the illogic of players targeting in recreation play (which this was). That is a subject for another day. Plus, despite there being plenty of materials out there convincingly providing the reasons not to target in rec play, it still happens. So let’s address it from the standpoint of our friend – the targeted player.
What can she do?
Short answer: be the cucumber.
What in the world am I talking about? I shall elaborate.
Does the cucumber worry about what the other vegetables in the crisper drawer think about it? Does it feel pressure when the lettuce, carrots, and celery are all picking on it, trying to get it to make a mistake? Does the cucumber lose sleep over a popup or missed dink (to err is to be cucumber after all)?
The answer to all of the above is no. The cucumber is the coolest customer in the crisper (say that 3 times fast).
It is cool because:
- It understands that it is an honor just to be on the court with the other vegetables that day – to be able to partake in a great activity (thank you Coach Pete for sharing this concept),
- It knows that it is but a cucumber, valuable and worthy, but still prone to errors that cucumbers make, and
- It appreciates the learning opportunity given to it when the other vegetables decide to hit every ball towards it (though such behavior is unfair and disrespectful to the cucumber’s partner – that is something that lays at the feet of the opponents and not the cucumber).
It can be stressful when you feel that the eyes of the world are squarely upon you as you miss dink after dink. Embrace the opportunity presented by your opponents: more shots = more practice = a better you in the long run. Remember to honor the game and your role in it.
Be the cucumber. Cool and collected. Confident and calm. No matter what challenges come your way.